Men - Women.. so different!

[Polly Sandybanks]

I've been thinking about this. Men and women are so different. Sometimes it's unbelievable that they can actually live together. I know that sometimes they actually can't, but still.

What do you think are the major differences (apart from the obvious physical ones)?

[Miruvor]

Men: Build up - destroy - build up - destroy - build up - destroy - build up - destroy.
:battle:

Women: Steady on - neat and orderly - steady on - neat and orderly - steady on - neat and orderly.
:nono:

[Catz]

actually to me its always encapsulated in the reaction to a problem.....
a woman will come home with a problem and want to talk it thru.....not DO anything immediately.......just talk....and guaranteed her partner will want to FIX it....even if it cant be fixed
whereas a man wont talk about a problem, cant understand why the woman wants to.....and just wants to FIX things.....even if he cant....
now, ok...this is a generalisation......but it does seem to be true a lot of the time....:huh: lol
:catz:

[Elf angel]

Yeah we are different....We're smarter! Nuff said.;) :evilcool:

[Pil]

:nono:

NOW NOW! If we are sexist towards them then there is nothing stopping them being horrible back! Lets not hav a go! ;) :cuddles:

Men have their upsides....:naughty:.....and women can do stuff better than men in some cases. I really like the whole multi-tasking thing, but is it REALLY true that men can't do it?! :o

[Fatty]

Hmmm well I can multi task I manage to sit here while shouting at the wife to ge tthe dinner on :-) ;-)

Seriously I think that it is hard generalise. Certainly with us the wife is more demanding than me, though I am probably too laid back. Usually only get round to replying to letters and bills when they saend me legal notices ;-)

[Catz]

lol lol....you sound like a mate of mine Fatty ;) he considers it multitasking if he uses the remote while eating his dinner :rolleyes: lol roflmao lol
actually....some men can multitask.......but they dont seem to do it as easily as most women do....almost like its innate in many women and learned in some men......
:catz:

[Sindarin]

I like to think I can multi-task. lol

In all seriousness, I've never given much thought about how men and women are different., although I'm sure the differences are many.

I suppose I haven't thought about such differences lately since it would be somwehat difficult to date, or live with someone if I were to actually critique her and I, think up a conclusion based on the facts given, and then try to make a relationship work. Especially if those differences make us look uncompatible.

[Polly Sandybanks]

You know what I realised a little while back? This multi task thing.. it makes women feel really good about themselves.. like "Ha.. we're better than you!". But on the other hand, men can use this to get away from doing things. ;) Hmm..

My mum went to a lecture a few weeks ago. A male professor was discussing this about multi tasks. He gave an example. One afternoon he was sitting at home, upstairs, with the new TV guide and a marker to check what he had to see that week. After a while he hears his wife come in through the door downstairs. He hears her starting to cook dinner, and getting the laundry done, and cleaning a bit and doing this and that. Suddenly she calls for him, asking him to help her with something, and he just said "I can't, I'm busy". Quite interesting really. :)

He talked a bit more about differences between men and women. We already know that women are better at doing a lot of different things at the same time. Men are, apparently, better at finding their way (I'm not sure of the right word in English, but anyway).
This, of course, is men and women in general.. not ALL men and women.

But it's interesting. :)

[Goldilocks]

I've heard it described as this:

Men are by nature, hunters. Direct in purpose. They need/want something, they have a direct purpose. Example, shopping. If a guy needs socks, he does not spend three hours in mall, searching for socks.

Women, on the other hand, are by nature gatherers. They gather information, and are very picky and choosy. They like to get a lot of information about things in order to properly make up their minds. Take, for instance the shopping scenario. When I go to the mall, I can't help but spend at least an hour there. I get sidetracked while looking at stuff.

I think, in general, this is pretty accurate.

[Daisy Gamgee]

apparently the reason we're so different is the size of our brains (and i don't mean that either one of us has a pea sized brain....although...!!)
but the different areas of the brain are different, like the bit that uses spatial awareness is bigger in men and thats why men are better at reading maps.

[Orc]

Goldilocks, I think you have a very good point. The differences between men and women are based on 1.5 million years of evolution (when homo sapiens first came to be). As a species, we have only been 'civilized' (i.e. no longer hunter / gatherer types) for about the last 8000 years. Since women have probably always maintained the majority of child rearing duties - in addition to gathering etc, the ability to mulit-task is nearly essential. Hunting is a pretty single minded activity requiring a great deal of concentration. Besides, if you're trying to do laundry by the stream, you'd probably scare off the deer.....:nono:

Personaly, I think it's good that we are different. It adds ballance to a relationship. It can also add stress to a relationship, but in my opinion, it's more positive than negative

[Daisy Gamgee]

i agree with that - relationships would be pretty boring if there was no conflicts of personality and abilities, and if we were all the same there'd be no learning or evolution.

[Elendur]

that being married has somewhat blunted my "multi Tasking skills!!!"
Why do something when I can get the wife to do it!!!

Seriously, everyone has different ways of doing things... even different men will handle things differently.. and as Fatty says it is not easy to generalise.. Everone's opinions are based on their own experiences and are therefore mostly biased to some degree!
For myself, I sometimes find it difficult to adjust to consulting my wife before just doing something, as I have been so used to looking after myself for so long!!
I will probably just end up doing the same thing.. but after consultation life is sooo much smoother!!!
I think that difference make the world go round.. but it is important to talk about problems when they occur.. rather than keeping quiet over something small until it grows into something much larger!.

[Elf angel]

Originally posted by daisy gamgee
i agree with that - relationships would be pretty boring if there was no conflicts of personality and abilities, and if we were all the same there'd be no learning or evolution.
True.
And do not forget that they are great cooks.Most of the Chefs are men...:grin:

[Catz]

yeah lol....and most of the cooks are women lol....just kidding guys......
yes i agree that the (supposed)traits of man and women can be complementary......and its also true that we all have a mix of these traits....you can have multi tasking men and logical women...and that can vary too depending on mood...there are times when im highly emotional...other times when i can be totally logical....and now and then im just plain nuts lol
i think overall, i prefer to take people on a one by one basis lol
:catz:

[Elf angel]

Originally posted by Catz
yeah lol....and most of the cooks are women lol....just kidding guys......
...there are times when im highly emotional...other times when i can be totally logical....and now and then im just plain nuts lol
i think overall, i prefer to take people on a one by one basis lol
:catz:

I'm afraid you're right there Catz.They are the chefs but we are the cooks..mecry..

I don't want to argue with you on the 2nd part there...;) :grin:

[Catz]

lol probably for the best lol....tho im nuts in the nicest possible way roflmao
oh.....unless im in the grips of PMT.....then LOOK OUT!!!!
:catz:

[Elf angel]

oohhh..i'm scared.:p :elfeek:

Anyway..men are created by God for one obvious reason:rolleyes: .....just can't think of it right now..:grin: :evilcool:

[Catz]

lol now THATS sexist Elf angel:elfeek: lol
i have to say i know any number of really nice men....my relationship record is something else again lol....but im glad that i know all the male friends i have....tis good to have another perspective on things sometimes, and while its great to have girl friends to talk stuff thru with, ive always found the guys to have invaluable contributions to make too....
:catz:

[Bonos-Girl]

i actually prefer men to women.....don't know why, just always got on with them better. I'm really bad at multi-tasking.....the only things i can do at the same time is eat and read...oh, and pay attention in class while talking!!!!

[Daisy Gamgee]

one of the people who knows me best, and has seen me at my worst is a male friend, and i think having him around gives me a break from my girl friends - girls can be pretty mean without knowing it, but with a bloke you can just sit back, relax and have a laugh about anything without having to think too hard!

we may moan about you occasionally lads (especially when you leave the toilet seat up - how rude!!) but we couldn't, or at least i couldn't, have a decent balanced life without some fellas around;)

[Elf angel]

Originally posted by Catz
lol now THATS sexist Elf angel:elfeek: lol
i have to say i know any number of really nice men....my relationship record is something else again lol....but im glad that i know all the male friends i have....tis good to have another perspective on things sometimes, and while its great to have girl friends to talk stuff thru with, ive always found the guys to have invaluable contributions to make too....
:catz:
Ok Ok...quit hissin' at me Catz! lol
God created them for so many reasons...ahemm like one certain man who played the best elf ever made..:naughty:

Other reasons....there's so many...
-they give us life..(u know what i mean)
-they pay for our educations (dads)
-they protect/fight our country
-they do silly things just to make us laugh..
:evilcool:

[Catz]

What ME???? hiss????? neverlol roflmao lol
:catz:

[Bonos-Girl]

ha ha ha ha.....roflmao

[Mirkgirl]

I'm not into the men are..., women are...., teenagers are...., children are......, students are....., teachers are......., clerks are......, bosses are.......
but most of them are (sadly) true, which only makes the exceptions better

And for the purpose of men - they are here for our pleasure ;)

for the so different part - the greatest secret of life is how you can have two, any two people in the same room and still have two (or more, but that's beyond the point) after an hour. People are different and that's the best and worst thing ever :)

[Aubrey]

I read somewhere that men are better with direction, because everyone has a natural sort of compass in their nose, and guy's noses are bigger. Don't know how true that is, but hey....thought I'd share...

[Elf angel]

Thank you for sharing...lol lol lol lol roflmao

[Polly Sandybanks]

A compass in the nose?? :elfeek:

[Aubrey]

Yup! Really really. I don't think it's a real, metal compass, but something similar to one...

~Aubrey